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Are You Riding the Brakes?

You may have heard of Car Talk, a popular radio talk show about automobiles and their repairs hosted by brothers Tom and Ray Magliozzi, broadcast weekly on NPR. I happened to find a question from a fan about riding the brakes that Tom and Ray answered which provides some wonderful metaphors for life. Let’s take a look. I’ve edited a bit for brevity and highlighted the parts we’re going to focus on later.

Dear Tom and Ray:

My husband…drives with one foot on the brake and one foot on the gas. At a red light, the poor car is trying desperately to move forward, as told by the right foot, but is being held prisoner by the left foot. It’s a terrible thing to experience and takes every ounce of my being to stay silent. … I am just asking/begging you guys to declare that two-footed driving is bad. … Thanks for your time, guys. I do hope you have a lovely, one-footed day. — Nikki

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TOM: If he’s “riding the brake” — that is, resting his left foot on the brake while he’s accelerating — he can easily overheat the brakes. And when brakes overheat, they stop working. That’s bad, right?

RAY: Even if he doesn’t overheat the brakes, he’ll surely wear them out faster. He’ll also be activating his brake lights when he’s not intending to stop. That tends to confuse and infuriate the drivers behind him.

TOM: It also “outs” him as a full-blown geezer.

RAY: On the other hand, if he uses two feet — one for the gas pedal and one for the brake — but only uses one pedal at a time, there’s nothing wrong with that.

TOM: It is, however, very difficult to avoid resting your left foot on the brake. Try it yourself. Your leg will be aching after about five minutes.

RAY: So make a deal with him, Nikki. If he’s willing to go to the gym and strengthen his gastrocnemius, soleus, plantaris, tibialis posterior, peroneus longus and peroneus brevis muscles so he can keep his nonactive foot flexed and off the unused pedal, you’ll stop complaining about his driving.

TOM: But if he can’t — or won’t — stick to only one foot at a time, tell him…you’re buying him a car with a clutch. That’ll give his left foot something productive to do.

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What’s your left foot doing?

You and I don’t have a gas pedal and a brake pedal. But we often set goals only to hold ourselves or our “passengers” back, so the car metaphor works really well to shed light on why we often find it far more difficult to achieve those goals than it could be. Perhaps we’re spending more personal energy than we need to — overheating our brakes and getting worn out too soon. Perhaps we’re using more external resources. Maybe we’re putting strain on our personal or professional relationships. Let’s take a look at the highlighted areas from the exchange above and see how they apply to real life.

  1. Trying desperately to move forward, as told by the right foot, but is being held prisoner by the left foot. This is the definition of riding the brake: pushing on the gas while simultaneously pushing down on the brake. We are saying we want to move, but also saying we don’t want to move. It’s time to make up our minds. Commit to the action you really want to take and remove one of your feet! Take your foot off the brake if you truly want to move ahead with your goals and dreams. But if you have an excellent reason not to move forward, then make a commitment now to say “no” and remove your foot from the gas.
  2. Activating his brake lights when he’s not intending to stop. That tends to confuse and infuriate the drivers behind him. There are people around you who are ready to support you and may already have given you their support. If you’re noticing some conflict in your personal or professional relationships, no wonder! When you stop sending mixed signals, the people around you will no longer be confused and exasperated. Get clear with yourself, and then broadcast a clear message with your actions.
  3. Very difficult to avoid resting your left foot on the brake. Your leg will be aching after about five minutes. Some of us are rationalizing our “riding the brake” approach by saying that we aren’t actually touching the brake with the left foot. We are holding the left foot above the brake pedal in READINESS for stopping. This Car Talk response shows that, even if that is true, it is a waste of physical effort and energy. It is exausting to actually keep one’s foot hovering in the air for very long. It is time to get honest with yourself. Keeping one foot on both pedals may not actually help you be any more ready to stop than another, simpler approach. It may be you’re a victim of habit — a behavior you’ve simply become very accustomed to. Time to break that mindless attachment and mindfully choose a behavior that supports your growth.
  4. If he’s willing to go to the gym and strengthen his gastrocnemius, soleus, plantaris, tibialis posterior, peroneus longus and peroneus brevis muscles so he can keep his nonactive foot flexed and off the unused pedal… As a follow up to number 3, if you really do want to keep your habitual behavior, here is what is required to do it well (in this case, keep your foot hovering in the air above the pedal). Are you that committed to your approach? Often, when we discover what is required to continue with our current methods effectively, we realize it is just not worth it and we are more wiling to abandon them for something that will more easily produce the results we really want. Why not evaluate your current technique and see whether you’d like to make it work better, or give it up for something that will help you move forward more easily?
  5. Give his left foot something productive to do. Instead of working hard to hold on to your current method, you may be surprised to find that putting your energy into a new approach actually does produce better results. This means being willing to learn and then actually DO something new. Often we go as far as learning the new method, but we keep it in the theoretical realm, never applying what we’ve learned. The key here is to put your new learning into practical action as soon as you possibly can. Identify the new behavior you’d like to adopt, and then take action! There will never be a better time than now.

Whether you need to commit to full forward momentum or a complete stop, finding clarity and making the commitment frees up energy and communicates intention. Your level of satisfaction will naturally increase with your ability to make greater use of your resources, increased mental clarity, and less conflict in your relationships. Take your foot off one of the pedals, and stop riding the brake!

If you would like assistance on which course of action to take, contact us. Coaching can help you gain clarity.

Next newsletter, I’ll follow up with this article. I wonder what action you will have taken by then? Write to me and let me know about your results. I love hearing from you.

 

 

Think Big Manifesto

What I’m reading now

The Think Big Manifesto: Think You Can’t Change Your Life (and the World)? Think Again. (Michael Port): Michael Port has written several successful business books, but this one took him out of his comfort zone. He talks straight about his own fears and excuses and then openly moves beyond them to show you how to do the same thing. Ready to think big? Bigger? It’s not a big book, but don’t judge it’s impact by it’s size.

 

 

Michelle Kunz: Life Coach, Career Coach, Executive Coach

About Michelle Kunz

Michelle earned her Certified Professional Coach (CPC) certification from the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC), an International Coach Federation (ICF) – accredited coach training program. She has also earned the ICF Professional Certified Coach (PCC) credential and is qualified to administer, interpret and debrief the Myers-Briggs, FIRO-B, and Energy Leadership assessments. She is currently accepting a limited number of new clients interested in life coaching, career coaching, executive coaching, or leadership training and development.

 

 

Power

Follow Up

What new technique did you try? Last month we talked about how to listen better to others so they would be more open to listening to your ideas. Specifically, I encouraged you to try active listening and changing your physical position while remaining silent to expand your listening skills. How did you do? Miss the last issue? Click here to read it.

 

 

Energy

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Begins June 13: Register now for this fun, interacitve coaching program! Learn how to move past the fear that stops you dead in your tracks or keeps you repeating undesirable patterns of behavior. Includes live webinars, personal assessment and debrief, and more. To register now click here. Seats are limited and early registration discounts apply.

 

 

Leadership

From the PEL Blog

Intensity: Your personal accelerator: “It really doesn’t matter if you are driving a Lamborghini and have a long stretch of empty road ahead of you if you are barely touch the accelerator pedal. If you don’t crank up the engine and take advantage of everything that car was built to do, you may as well be driving a Hyundai.” To read more about this topic, check out the blog!

 

 

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Intensity: Your personal accelerator

According to Dictionary.com, intensity is defined as:

1.  the quality or condition of being intense.
2.  great energy, strength, concentration, vehemence, etc., as of activity, thought, or feeling.
3.  a high or extreme degree, as of cold or heat.
4.  the degree or extent to which something is intense.
5.  a high degree of emotional excitement; depth of feeling.

 

For our purposes, let’s focus on definition 2.
Notice the word “energy” — one of the three pillarsintensity gives you access to your personal energy of PEL Coaching’s philosophy.
I chose energy for a reason. Just as living things need a source of energy, such as the sun, to live, we need energy to fuel our goals and dreams. Think of intensity as your personal accelerator pedal when it comes to that personal energy that keeps you moving in the direction of those goals.

It really doesn’t matter if you are driving a Lamborghini and have a long stretch of empty road ahead of you if you are barely touch the accelerator pedal. If you don’t crank up the engine and take advantage of everything that car was built to do, you may as well be driving a Hyundai.

LamborghiniWhy not check out what your engine can really do? Even a Hyundai can do more than 15 MPH. Sure, you may have some traffic snarls in your life. You may not have been maintaining your engine. OK, those become actionable goals. Discover an alternate route around your road blocks, or learn something new while you are in waiting mode. Start to take better care of yourself. (You do know we’re using a metaphor for life, right?)

No matter what challenges and opportunities you’ve got in front of you, use the right amount of intensity to fuel you forward so you aren’t wasting time and other resources just because you didn’t put down the gas pedal. The best news? Your kind of energy runs on a self-filling tank.